5. Cut the ghost loose: One superpower men have is being humans and ghosts at the same time. While it's tempting to send an epistle demanding answers and being moist, (a close friend called me out this weekend for being moist, in her words “stop being a little moist wasteman”), I’ve realized that it's more respected to take the high road. If you want closure, maybe a polite and composed message might do the trick. However, be prepared for the possibility of being served lunch alongside breakfast. As they say, you never really move on until you’re embarrassed. Closure can also come from within. Let him disappear sis. He is a ghost anyway.

      6. Prioritize Selfcare:  Heartbreak and ghosting can make you lose sight of who you are. Take this time to rediscover yourself. Rekindle old hobbies, pick up new ones, and invest in self-care routines that make you feel like the amazing person you are. Selfcare is the best comeback.

7. Accept the situation: Accept situations for what they are. Don't try to make it more than what it is and don't try to downplay it. Just take it for what it is.

      9. Distract Yourself: It’s okay to take sometime off and let the pain sink, but don’t stay there too long. Occupy yourself. Staying idle for too long allows your emotions to take over and your mind starts to wander in different directions. If you are an overthinker like me, please prioritize healthy distractions. For me, I occupy myself with work and friends. I, for one, can’t be the heartbroken girl that sits and sulks all day.

     Heartbreaks of any kind are painful, and they leave you feeling awful (I’ll talk more on the different forms of heartbreak in another post). Don’t make it worse by searching for them because they’ll be having a good time, and it will tear your little heart out. If you’re familiar with Instagram, then you’re familiar with this spooky thing they do where you randomly start to see content that relates to your exact situation – AI is taking over for real! Here are a few quotes I have come across and have stuck with me: 

• If they wanted to, they would.
•  No response is a response.
• Not everyone in your life is supposed to be there for a lifetime.
•  Be patient, your person is coming.

So off I go to deal with these feelings so I can come back stronger for my fellow soldiers that need me.

Side note: I know you guys are probably wondering “why does she use so many gifs on her posts?” Well, the truth is my response to a lot of the things that happen in my life is mostly comical and I hope the gifs make you smile, and you see a light at the end of this tunnel called life.

Love, Wonu.